A Lesson Learned
Posted in Uncategorized on 11/16/2009 12:43 pm by Tommy5677When I started my business in Portland, Oregon, I decided that the majority of my practice would be dedicated to helping people lose the attachments they have to their allergies. As an allergy sufferer myself, I thought it would be the best way to put my services to good use. In the mix of all that, I also wanted to work on helping my clients resolve any blocks to progress by identifying them, reaching the core issue, and then releasing them. I work with weight loss, stress management, and simple addictions as well as allergies.
As an energy interventionist I sometimes lose site of why I love this work so much and believe that everyone should not only be aware of it but that it’s appropriate for everyone to do in all instances. I’m beginning to realize that it may not be the case and the last thing I want to be is an energy work evangelist and alienate my friends and acquaintances.
Recently, I and the rest of the nurses at my current job, were working under threat of lay offs. The threat was ever present and was in our faces everyday we were there. Management thought they were helping by keeping us informed but in reality, what they were doing was keeping us in the dark and creating mass panic in the ranks. While we knew something was up, we could never put our fingers on anything and day after day we would trudge the floors, knowing that at any minute any of us could be rendered jobless. We mustered our courage and grumbled amongst ourselves in hopes of comforting one another, somehow.
On that fateful day when some of our co-workers were getting the ax, we were stewing in the simmering juices of the unknown. At one point, one of the nurses was verbalizing her angst and the fact that she was allowing the situation to make her physically ill. She was experiencing nausea and upset since the night before and continued lamenting her grief, even into the hours following the layoffs. When I mentioned to her that I had given her a tool to use in such situations, the only way she knew how to respond was to verbally attack me, likely because I failed to validate her response to the situation.
Sometimes, in the midst of grief, people don’t want to hear that there is a way out. Instead they choose to be where they are, no matter the consequences. If we let go of those things that we have in the moment, we cannot possibly know how else to respond. Can we? Grief has it’s purpose and perhaps it’s unhealthy to let go of it at a time when we are really needing to process. The key I believe, is to feel what we need to at the time and later release the triggers.
I’m finding more and more that at times, some will interpret your offer to help in a different way than you originally intended. My lesson I believe, is not to control my passion for the work, but rather my zeal and a resultant need to help. Maybe for me it’s about allowing and observing because only when I do that can I know when the time is right. Then I can hope that those in need can experience the allowing as well.